My Divorce Ally

If you are somewhere in the middle of a separation and you are not sure who to talk to first, Trisha Allan is the person a lot of people say they wish they had found sooner. She runs My Divorce Ally from Delta as a certified separation and divorce coach. She is the one who walks alongside you when you are looking for assistance prior to a separation, beyond divorce and the matters in-between.

A Certified Divorce Coach Serving Surrey, Delta and Anywhere Online

Trisha grew up in Richmond and her family settled on this side of the tunnel more than ten years ago. She will tell you she loves how close the beach is and how the community keeps growing without losing the tight knit feel that made her want to stay.

Sessions with Trisha are virtual, which is why she works just as easily with someone in Surrey as with someone across the border. You meet by Zoom or phone if preferred - she will meet you at your comfort level.

What Working With a Separation and Divorce Coach Actually Looks Like

People come to Trisha at every stage. Some are trying to decide whether to separate at all. Some are deep in the middle of negotiations. Some are divorced and dealing with the quiet part nobody warns you about, where you may be facing transitional challenges.

Trisha will meet you where you are at emotionally, logistically, and throughout the business of divorce. Her approach is sympathetic, non-judgmental, and is there as your thinking partner to get you from point A to point B. Her aim is not to tell you where to drive, but to help you feel you are not just a passenger on the ride.

Being Prepared to See a Qualified Legal Professional

This is the part that surprises people. One of Trisha’s roles is to help you prepare to see qualified legal professionals, provide tips and strategies to be a credible client and help ground you when negotiations or appearances may feel overwhelming. She will help to encourage you to use your emotional energy efficiently by assisting you to be focused, confident, clearer and empowered during what may be a very confusing and difficult time.

Co-Parenting Support

If you have children, this is where a lot of the value sits. Trisha runs information sessions on co-parenting, including what you may expect from a child at different ages, along with tips and strategies on how to support and ease the change for them while family dynamics shift.

She also will help you through child-centered discussions of what parenting may look like going forward so that you have a framework in mind that’s in alignment with your values and your family’s needs. One father wrote about how she helped him keep a positive relationship with both his child and his ex, and how she kept the focus on what was truly important.

A Confidential Space Where Nothing You Say Is Judged

Ask Trisha what she wants people to feel and she does not talk about outcomes. She talks about the room. Compassionate, confidential, safe enough to be vulnerable in, and a place where you feel genuinely heard.

Her clients describe her almost identically. One wrote about her calm, peaceful approach without judgment, how reassuring her presence is, and how she kept helping him dial into his own capability until things felt lighter and calmer. Another described how she named the blind spots he had not noticed himself, and how she recognized his effort as a father in a way that gave him real confidence.

Trisha puts it plainly. She does not want a session to feel like work. She wants you to leave it feeling better than when you arrived.

Interview Coaching If You Are Returning to Work

Here is the piece almost nobody else offers. If you have been at home with the children for years and a separation suddenly means you need an income, the job search itself can be the scariest part of all of it.

Trisha is a certified employment interview consultant, and she coaches exactly this. What to expect in an interview, how to answer the hard questions, how to talk about a gap in your work history without apologizing for it, and how to find the strengths you have stopped noticing in yourself. One client said that after several years out of the workforce, she finally felt confident about handling those questions.

Divorce Support Groups So You Are Not Doing This Alone

The thing Trisha is most excited about right now is her groups. There is a series that runs weekly over several weeks, and a monthly gathering called Gather, Grow, Go Forward for women who want somewhere to land regularly. She also hosts sessions with guest speakers from British Columbia on family law questions and on the property and mortgage side of separating.

They run online and they are not recorded, so you can contribute or you can simply listen. The point is straightforward: isolation makes all of this heavier, and sitting with people who understand makes it lighter.

What Trisha Wants You to Know Before You Decide Anything

Ask her for one piece of advice and she does not hesitate. This can be a very overwhelming time - try to avoid making rash decisions and take a pause to practice self-compassion during a time when it’s easy to feel lost.

What to Expect When You Reach Out to My Divorce Ally

Expect a first conversation that commits you to nothing. Expect someone who listens before she suggests, who tells you plainly what she can and cannot help with, and who will point you toward a lawyer, a realtor, or another professional when that is what you actually need. Referrals are part of how she works.

Trisha has been through a divorce herself and is raising two children, so none of this is theory for her. She knows the layers, the legalities, and the range of emotions, and she is trained on top of that, with certifications in divorce coaching, transition and recovery coaching, and co-parenting coaching.

If you have been carrying this on your own and quietly wondering whether talking to someone would help, this is the conversation to start with.